For a while I've seen mention of Simplicity Parenting mentioned in the blog circles I frequent. It's been in my Amazon cart for quite literally 2 years. This past week I finally hit the purchase button. I have to say I am thrilled I did. I am halfway through the book and it is marked up more than any other book I own. The consistent theme through the entire book is establishing a rhythm. A rhythm is quite different than a schedule and it's implementation can be quite life changing. It so happens that I had been reading quite a bit about rhythm before purchasing the book and had already begun to establish a few things within our daily life. What a difference! The book has taken that desire to the next level for me. Dr. Payne is a big advocate of a simpler, slower childhood than many kids have these days. He talks about limiting toys, getting lots of outside time, limited TV/device time as a way to help the child grow slowly but completely.
Here are a few of my favorite thoughts from the book thus far:
"Children need time to become themselves---through play and social interaction. If you overwhelm a child with stuff---with choices and pseudochoices---before they are ready, they will only know one emotional gesture: "More!""
"I love this very American expression, "being grounded", because in this context, it fits. When an adolescent is overwhelmed, in a soul fever (his term for a struggling child), the electrical current around them is so strong that they actually do need "grounding." They need to be brought back to earth, brought back to their more relaxed, resilient selves."
"By seeing only tendencies, syndromes, and labels, we risk not seeing our children's intrinsic intent, their deep biographical gesture in the world."
I am excited to read more in this book. I know the things I find lacking in my own parenting style are easily changed (as if change was easy!). I do believe that Simplicity Parenting will be a large help in connecting the vision I have for our days with what we actually have going on.
I will post a full review when I finish the book.